How to Make Peace at Work

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I'm an INFJ, which means that in the workplace, I function best as a bridge-builder.

In my corporate life, this meant negotiating hundreds of thousands of dollars between vendors, clients, and my C-level executives.

In my non-corporate career, this means connecting my clients with the care they need to heal their chronic physical, emotional, and spiritual pain.

Here are the truths shared between the two that help me broker peace:

Everyone is doing their best.

You have got to remember this: everyone is not doing your best. They're doing THEIR best.

You don't know what's going on with them.

You know what's going on with you.

And your life is hard, isn't it?

You have joys and wins and sadness and loss.

Which leads me to truth #2:

It's hard for all of us.

To be human is to suffer.

The Buddhists figured that out early on.

The purpose of suffering is to build your compassion muscle.

Here's how you do that.

You cannot take it personally

This is a tough one. Here's what I mean: you cannot take it on your person.

When someone spits their egoic inner child all over you, you can let it drip all over you, marinate deep until your inner child throws a tantrum right back.

Or you can let it brush right past you knowing it has nothing to do with you.

This can actually be easier to practice in a work setting, because often you are doing the work for someone else; it's not your product, your company, your baby.

It's easier not to take it personally when it's not your baby.

The trick is to cultivate that same ease in all of your relationships. Spouses, parents, siblings, all the tricky ones: stop taking it in.

Just let your love shine out.

You have got to take it easy on yourself

My friend, you have worked so hard to get to this point.

Remember you 5 years ago? 15 years ago? Look at how far you've come.

You're doing GREAT.

Give yourself some credit.

You're right where you need to be.