Day 18 - 60 min

Let’s journal!

We take so many things personally.

I do, anyway. It’s hard not to.

I’ll give you an example from one of my clients:

She was expressing concern over a dog she had just adopted. Everyone was telling her what a terrible breed it is.

I told her, “They’re saying it’s a terrible breed for THEM, not that this isn’t the dog for you.”

(It was a Jack Russel, btw. Very smart and great dogs so long as you train and exercise them, just like all living beings.)

So often, we take anyone that questions the decisions we make and take their opinion on for ourselves.

So often, this does not serve.

So here’s what I want you to do:

Write down all the things that people have said to you recently that made you defensive, that had you questioning your decisions.

All the times someone suggested you should be doing something different than what you are doing.

All the times someone said, “That’ll never work,” or “That sounds impossible,” or “I would never enjoy that.”

Then write down the antidote:

“That’ll never work” becomes “That’ll never work for you, but I’m excited about it for me.”

“That sounds impossible” becomes “That’s impossible for you. I’m making it happen.”

“I would never enjoy that” becomes “You wouldn’t, but I am actively enjoying it. Different strokes!”

Give it a try in writing.

Then give it a try in person.

(This is also an excellent negotiation strategy.)